Self Esteem

Negative thoughts can trigger low self esteem.

Think of times when you may have had thoughts of being a loser, or maybe you have told yourself “I can’t do anything right.”

These are examples of negative thoughts or a state of mind.

Self esteem is also a state of mind and when we allow ourselves to have these negative thoughts the result is low self esteem.

Being a people pleaser, putting others’ needs before your own, can also result in low self esteem.   

Allowing yourself to choose what you will think, how you will feel and how you will respond to people you are in relationships with can be an important first step in building positive self esteem.

Boundaries and Self Esteem

Having an awareness of your personal boundaries is essential to having healthy relationships.
This awareness is like having an intuitive sense that alerts you when a relationship has become abusive, invasive or hurtful. With this awareness you begin to change your focus of trust from others to yourself.
This will begin the process of building more positive self esteem.

Boundaries…Setting Limits

Does it seem like in your relationships you find yourself doing most of the work trying to make them successful?

Do you find yourself saying yes to friends, co-workers, or family members when you really want to say no?

When we are aware of our personal boundaries we are able to set limits on who we allow into our personal space. Think of boundaries as a way of protecting and taking care of ourselves.

Setting limits, defining boundaries, learning to communicate effectively in relationships contribute to our growth as human being. You cannot have a healthy relationship with someone who has no boundaries, and cannot effectively communicate.